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How Adoption Has Changed

There are many myths about adoption.  A rumor starts and spreads over the internet or in a chat room, and everyone thinks it’s the truth because it’s in print. Most people, unless they have adopted very recently, aren’t aware of the way adoption has changed in the past decade or even the past few years.  

All those waiting babies

“What children do you have right now?” 

“Can I come over and look at the babies?”  

"We aren't real picky, can you just tell us what you have available?"

These are actual calls we still get in 2018. As if we have some inventory that we need to move, and the families that are listed on our Waiting Families page are just looking at some kind of back order situation. It never ceases to be shocking. Do people really believe this? They do. 

Somehow, people who are not familiar with modern day adoption practices in the U.S., have reason to believe there are still orphanages or homes where children are waiting for adoption. This isn’t the case and hasn’t been in 50+ years. Orphanages exist in some foreign countries, but not here in the United States. We have foster care and we have adoption. There isn’t much in-between. The notion that there are facilities where infants are kept while waiting for a home is incredibly outdated, at least in terms of US domestic adoption.  

A large portion of the population believes that there are thousands of children waiting for homes here in America.  While this may be true of children who are older and within the foster system, it’s not true of healthy infants.  Actually, the opposite is true. Hopeful adoptive parents wait (sometimes long periods of time) before being able to find a child to adopt. In fact there are estimated to be approximately 36 waiting adoptive families for every infant placed in the US. Birth parents have their choice of families and can design their own adoption plan.