There are many ways to be a mother. If the idea of motherhood sounds wonderful, but parenting isn't an option because of finances, life situation, or age, adoption could be the perfect solution.
We imagine if you are considering making an adoption plan, you have already thought long and hard about what would be best for you and your baby's future. Perhaps you think an adoptive family could give your child the future you cannot. Or, maybe you realize your living situation isn't safe to bring a newborn into. Only you know the many reasons you're considering adoption.
Let's take a moment to review the steps for placing your unborn baby for adoption. By doing so, we hope you will have a better idea of what is right for you.
Beginning The Adoption Process
By now, you have visited a doctor or pregnancy care center and confirmed you are pregnant. You are aware there are three options when it comes to handling your unplanned pregnancy. You can choose abortion, parenting, or adoption.
Every woman's situation is unique. Yours is too. Choosing to place your child for adoption is a brave decision, but where do you begin?
Because the adoption process requires a great deal of trust, you need an open and honest agency. The only way you can move forward is to have confidence that the people you are working with have your back. Finding the right agency is your first step.
As you meet with them, you need to be confident that your circumstances and desires are being heard and understood. You also need to know that your story will remain confidential until you are ready to tell it. Ultimately, you have the final say, but knowing your adoption specialist is looking out for you will give you more peace of mind.
As you talk through the process of going from pregnancy to birth and beyond, tell your counselor how you feel along the way. Discuss the agency's process for your health care costs, legal requirements, choosing an adoptive family, and the types of adoptions they offer. A reputable agency will require nothing from you financially. It should be entirely free for you to work with them.
Once you are ready to move forward with adoption, it is time to make a plan. An adoption plan includes choosing the adoptive family, the environment you want for your child, and the amount of contact you wish to have with the new family in the future.
Choosing the adoptive family is obviously the second biggest decision after deciding on adoption. It is the agency's responsibility to find prospective adoptive families and handle all legal requirements. Currently, more families are waiting to adopt newborns than the number of infants available. As a result, you will have many couples to choose from.
The families who apply to adopt go through a rigorous review process. They have completed background checks, including criminal and abuse records. They fill out a lengthy questionnaire about their home life, hobbies, education, finances, and more. Plus, they create a family portfolio. By the end of the process, you will have enough information about each adoptive family to make a confident choice.
As you look at families, consider how you want your child to be raised now and in the future. Do you want your child to have older siblings? Is their religious affiliation important? Knowing what is important to you will help your agency representative present only the best matches.
Of course, if you would prefer the agency to choose the family for you, that is also perfectly acceptable. You need to be comfortable in every decision.
The adoptive family has been chosen, and you have placed your newborn with them. Now your little one has two mothers. As you created the adoption plan, you also discussed the amount of contact you would like to have with the new family.
Today, most adoptions are considered "open adoptions." With this type of adoption, you have regular contact with the adoptive family. You exchange full names, phone numbers, email addresses, and any other identifying information you want to share. You and the adoptive family agree on the type of relationship you wish to have. Often, the birth mother and birth family become an extension of the adoptive family, sharing photos and important events.
The agency you work with should also offer recommendations for support groups and ongoing counseling opportunities. It's important to continue talking about your emotions, concerns, and future after placement.
Contact A Gift of Hope to review the process of adoption. We will not ask you to make a decision or commitment at this time, but we will help you learn whether this option is right for you. Placing a baby for adoption is absolutely a valid parenting choice. You have every right to make that plan based on what you know is best for you and your children.
Let us help you move forward. There is hope for you, your child, and for both of your futures.
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Did you know that we customize our adoptive family searches to meet our expectant parent and birth parent requests? Just tell us what you are looking for to find your perfect adoptive family and we will help you, even if they aren't currently signed up with us. We want you to be in control of who your baby goes home with!
Contact us to tell us what you are looking for and we will be happy to find adoptive family profiles for you to review.